Work in Progress: Update

Sorry for the hiatus.  I have been going through many changes in my life. My middle son got married to his high school girlfriend.  I have been on and off dating Mr. Maybe; yes he is still here.  My eldest child moved back into the house with me. My daughter’s first prom was a great success; her picture was published. So much more, huh! 

Therefore, I will break down each story within the next couple of weeks. I have always told you I would be transparent with you and I promise you I will continue.  Keep posted and hang on, you are in for a bumpy ride.

Dating:The Coworker

Ok so there is this guy at work that has shown an interest in me. I don’t usually like to “crap where I eat” because when mad day comes, it doesn’t work out well for either party involved.  I try to stay away from situations like this. Well, I was peeping the guy out and was intrigued by him. He was different than any other person I have run across. 

In the beginning, he would ask me to out for lunch to get familiar with the area.  I obliged a few times to take him around and to hit some of the lunch spots that we would visit. It was becoming a routine then, but people who know me know that I like to not venture out during lunch.  I had to let him know that I eat sandwiches mostly during the week.  He started joining me with my lunch buddies in our secret lunch location.  He was okay the first couple of times, and then he started with the “come on Bae we have to get back to our desks.”  I am a very private person and do not like people in my business.  Therefore, I laid down some ground rules about how this was going to work at work.

Dating: Made For TV!

If this post do not blow your mind, something is wrong. As I am sitting here typing, I am still trying to wrap my head around it as well as still asking myself, “did this really happen”.  This situation was the scariest, unreal, and craziest shit I have ever been in or witnessed. Hold on to this unbelievable ride, it is about to get bumpy.

Shane and I made plans for me to visit him while he was working in a different city.  He was about an hour away and I have made this trip before.  I knew it was not a bad ride and It would not take long to get to him. I told him that I would leave in an hour because I wanted to avoid as much traffic as I possible could. 

When I got to the hotel, I text him and he said he was starving so he went to get something for us to eat.  I said that was not a problem, I would run to Target to get a few things.  Fifteen minutes later, he called and said he had made it back to the room and he left the door cracked.  I finished looking around and headed back to the hotel.

Mr. Maybe: The Introduction

I met Mr. Maybe almost a year ago, but was unwilling to notice him.  When I first saw him, I thought he was a silly person because all he did was clown around.   The more we hung around each other the more we would talk.  I actually liked when he was around. My nights weren’t boring.

I didn’t realize that he like me until we were at a function and someone else brought it to my attention.  The person said, “I think Mr. M like you, he is coming around more and he ask questions about you”.  After that conservation, I started noticing he was doing what she said. He was coming around more and would hang out with me and hold conversations with me. 

He had a picture of my daughter that I wanted. He said I could either send it to myself or I could air drop it.  I just went on ahead and text it to myself because that was less complicated.  I wasn’t really trying to give him my phone number and he really wasn’t asking for it, either. Honestly, I wasn’t really feeling him like that at the time. Chuckling as I type, and that is how we exchanged phone numbers. 

Parenting: The Middle Child Complex

For some time now, I have been dealing with the middle child complex.  I didn’t want to realize that he was attributing to some of the behaviors that are associated with the Middle Child Syndrome.  As a parent, you want to believe that you have done a great job not to show favoritism when you have more than one child.  However, I believe I missed my own memo somewhere. 

Being that he has an older brother that excelled in sports, he doesn’t want anything to do with sports.  I really believe if he could change schools he would play a sport because he has mentioned that he don’t want to live in the shadow of his brother. 

Relationship Diary: Another Life Changing Relationship

I have been off my writing game because I had to sit back and regroup for a minute. I have shared things with you; major milestones, my friend’s craziness and now, my most recent break-up.

I never realized that you give and trust the person that you are in a relationship with so much. You have all of their pertinent information.  Man, I have to delete so much stuff it is ridiculous.  Not to mention, I have to change passwords and he does too, I digress.

EP and I decided to go our separate ways. Hell, we did that a while ago and I wasn’t ready to share that with you.  He and I had been going through some hard times for a while.  We were on/off, disconnected, reconnected and finally met the break-up point.  We didn’t split because of the distance, but because we are in two different phases in our lives. 

Sponsor Mom: Taking On the Challenge

Last year, I was the bleacher mom. Simply because, my daughter made the majorette team at her high school.  As the supportive parent I am, I yelled, videoed and photographed from the bleachers.  The squad had a sponsor that worked with them and I would help out when I can.  I didn’t do any of the “sponsor” things, more like the “majorette parent” things. I walked parades and bought drinks to the games for the girls to drink.

Well this year, my daughter is venturing into her second year as a majorette. So, I decided to take on the challenge of being the majorette squad sponsor.  Which means, I will have to order uniforms, schedule fundraisers, meet with parents, working closely with the band director and the principal, as well.  As a result, I will have to be present at all of their appearances.

What have I done to myself? Can I do it?  Will I survive? Let the fun begin!

My Happiness Chronicles

Starting off a New Year, everyone make their New Year’s resolutions. Some people make promises that they make about bettering themselves. 

So this year, I decided that I wasn’t going to do a New Year’s Resolution but, to work on being a better Jeigh. I want a better me. I want to love myself so I can love others. I want to improve on me from the inside out and outside in.

Therefore, I am doing 365 days of Happiness! I want to emphasize on great things that happened to me every day for one year. I will write about all of them, so I can share all of the good things with you guys.

Keep posted! 

Friend’s Escapades: Snooping in the Phone

During one of our “Girl’s Day Out” the topic of “Going through your boyfriend phone” came up. This is always a touchy subject because some of us is for going through the phone and the others aren’t so keen on snooping.

So, Jess said the other night she and Ralph were sitting on the sofa.  He got up to go in the bathroom and she did the ultimate betrayal to their relationship. She opened his phone, after watching him put in his passcode several times.  She said the found text messages from some friends and a couple of females. One particular female was asking about getting together.  She wasn’t sure if half of the conversation was deleted but she said it did not make sense.  It was like she was asking questions and he wouldn’t respond with an appropriate answer.  She said the female was an ex of his. She said the conversation went something like this when she confronted him about it.

Parenting: Dating the DMV!

It was time for my younger son to get his driver’s license; I can’t believe he is ready to drive already.   Since it was time for him to get his license which meant I would have to start dating the DMV!  I am not sure if any of you have experienced getting your child a DL, but this story is one for the books.

To begin my “dating” process, Zay had to take driver’s education for a week.  He had to get the driver’s book to study and complete the class.  He did exceptionally well and he was ready for the next step, which was get his permit. Getting the permit wasn’t that horrible of a journey.  We got to the DMV, he took the test, passed it and took the picture for his permit.  That was the best date the DMV and I had.

Friends Escapades: Girls' Day Out

Tee, Jaycee and I enjoyed a girls' day out recently. We all just needed a day away from kids, boyfriends and work.  We had an awesome time!  We left for the city early, so we had time to catch lunch, shop and shoot the crap.  Tee met me at my house, because we were going to ride with Jaycee.  She arrived around 9:30 am.   

Once we got on the road, we began the truth conversation.  Meaning, if anyone of us asked the other a question, it had to be truthful.  Wow, did this open our eyes to our previous and current relationships as well as future plans.  Without spilling the tea, let’s just say it was extra juicy! Heck, I learned a lot about them and myself. 

Sidebar: Ratchet TV Foolery, "Sorority Sisters"

My Twitter timeline and Facebook feeds were off the charts about this show.  Therefore, I watched every cringing moment of this foolishness because I didn’t want to criticize it before actually seeing the show. 

First, let me state that as a member of Delta Sigma Theta Sorority, I am appalled and ashamed of the show.  The show was a minstrel show and has folly all around it.

In no way should educated and dignified women of these organizations act this way.  The misrepresentation of Alpha Kappa Alpha, Delta Sigma Theta, Zeta Phi Beta and Sigma Gamma Rho has me floored.  I am having a hard time trying to wrap my head around the idea that my sorority sisters & other sorority sisters selling out their organizations for a week of fame. 

Fitness: Bringing Mission 15 Back

 

Yea, yea! I know, I have been talking about these missions for a while.  Believe it or not they actually work; well if you stay focus.  If you don’t remember what Mission 15 is; click here!  

 

Anyhoo, I am challenging myself again because Thanksgiving put me over the edge for my weight containment.  During Thanksgiving, Bayou Classic is on our annual schedule of family activities, which, that brings about worse eating & drinking habits. It is something about Mother’s chicken, Harrah’s 4am breakfast, The Mercedes Superdome’s Bloody Mary’s and not to mention Gene’s Po’boys after the game, mmm!  To go a step further, if you ever visit my mother’s house during this time, her potato pies are delectable and will put on some extra pounds on because you can’t just be content with just one slice.

 

Parenting: The Promise Ring

On my way into work today, KB and I had a different kind of discussion.  We usually have a heart to heart talks, but I wasn’t ready for this talk.  He asked me, “Mommie what would you say if I gave Syd a promise ring?” I had to gaze out of the window and catch my breath for a second before I replied, “WHAT, like promise to marry? He shook his head and said, “I think so.”  Trying to lighten the situation, I said, “You can get one out of the bubble gum machine.”  I then told him, “Maybe you could give her the one your dad gave me when I was in high school.” We both chuckled and I quickly changed the conversation.

 

When I got to my desk, my mind started racing.  Reasons being, I have an unsettling feeling about this particular girl and is my son really ready to promise marriage to “one” girl right now? 

Parenting: Sixteen and Horny

My middle child, who is sixteen, has begun sending messages to girls that he wants to engage in sexual activity.  When I read the messages I began to hyperventilate. It was just yesterday that he was running around stark naked trying to not get dressed and couldn’t sleep alone after watching scary movies.  I guess I have blinked through the majority of his years and now I am dealing with this. 

I was sixteen when I found out I was pregnant. It was too late for my mom to find text messages in my cell phone; oh yea, we had no such thing! I was seventeen when I had my first child and I try my best to not have my children rearing kids at a young age.  So, now you can imagine why I am so heartbroken after reading these messages.

As much as I would like to look at him as being my young son and want to keep him tied to my hip, I realize that is pure silliness. He is growing up so fast and wants to start making some “grown” man choices.  I just want to believe that I have instilled in him the values that will dictate some good decision-making on his part.

Friend’s Escapades: Lusting After the Boss

Jessica has been hinting around with how she has eyes on a guy.  After having a few drinks the other night, she filled me in on who that guy was.  She has been having eyes on her boss. Internally, I was processed what she told me like this; Her BOSS? What the Hell? 

I was speechless. Of course I began to ask the questions.  Does he know you like him?  Do he even know you exist?  She went on to tell me that she has been having a high school crush on him since the first time she saw him.  She said that her eyes lightens up when they are around each other.  She went in detail about it (yes I got her permission to share):

Eyelashes from Hell

Shay came to work with these luxurious eyelashes.  They were so ‘five-star’ that you couldn’t miss them, especially the way she batted them, lol.  She told me she could wait to let me see them, so I could get a pair of my own.  Shay scheduled an appointment for me on Thursday, so I could surprise EP with my long, flirtatious lashes.  Also, remember I am somewhat chicken, so I asked if she would come with.

Well the afternoon came when it was time for me to get my engaging lashes.  I arrived a few minutes before Shay, so I was a nervous wreck.  I was so scared and I don’t know why.  This moment reminded me of the time when I get my navel ring…so scared for nothing!  I wouldn’t let Kim begin the applying process until Shay got there.

Sidebar: The Name Change

 

I have changed the blog’s name to a more suitable name for me.  Reason being, I have been writing about EP for a while and I realized, he has mastered that “uncharted river” and he isn’t going anywhere anytime soon.  The flow of the blog will not change nor will my adventures, because I am still in a “long distance” relationship and living that 'single' girl life.

Married/Attached Men

 

Married/attached men disgust me!  Why you may ask ? Because they are married to a woman or they live with one day in and day out with, but still want to cheat on her.  They will come at you with all they have instead of putting that into their marriage or relationship.  Plus, they don’t want you intruding on their “family time”.  When all is said and done (if you chose to go down that road with a married man/attached man) they will deny ever knowing you!  So why put yourself in those shoes in the first place.

Lately, I have been approached by several married and/or attached men.  These men know that I am in a relationship with EP and still try to press up against me. The more I tell him 'no' or ignore them, the more they press up against me.  

My Countdown to Christmas: 8 Days & Counting…

This weekend was a great one. EP flew in for a visit and to help celebrate my middle child’s birthday.  We took Zay to a Pelicans game in the city.  My son was really stoked about going and he thoroughly enjoyed the game.  He also was able to score a picture with the New Orleans Pelican Dance Team; you go boy!  We couldn’t keep the kid from blushing. 

My two guys was able to get me to the mall on Saturday.  I hate going to the mall around Christmas time.  Don’t get me wrong, I love shopping but not when the stores are overcrowded and people are pushing and shoving.  It is something about being in tight places with a lot of people as well as the darn heat is on explode in the stores, that I just can’t handle.  However, I was able to get two gifts off of my list. My brother maybe impressed this year; two down, MANY to go.