Year In Review

It has been a year since I started transferring my thoughts from paper to this blog. This blog has been my outlet!  A piece of me that I wanted to share and a place that has helped me understand that I too, am a mess!   I have shared my dates, adventures, and my journeys within my single life. 

Let’s recap:

• I have pondered over recycling my ex and getting that phone call from an ex asking to rekindle the old flame.
• Exes
• I went on several dates. One alone, perfect dates and some that made me want to quit searching for Mr. Jeigh altogether!  However, they made me realize what I am willing to accept and not tolerate!
• Dating
• I have shared closing a major chapter in my life and realizing that I pushed a person away because I didn’t know what I wanted.
• Love Lost

Living Single: Single & Totally Alone

Have you ever been single and been totally alone?  Well, that happened to me recently.  With my son being away in college and the other kids having fun with grandma, I spent some time completely alone.  There was no male companion blowing up my phone or asking to spend time with me. Along with no children asking to go places or asking to use the car. It was just me, myself and I lounging around the house with different thoughts rolling around in my head.

One of my thoughts was to get out of the house and go places.  There is a huge problem with this thought because I am female and by being female, going out alone isn’t safe.  I know some may do it, but this girl ISN’T!  I don’t have many girlfriends and plus the ones I do have are booed up.  Therefore, I know they wouldn’t want to hit the dating scene with me. So, that makes me resort back to finding things to do at home. 

Why Single Life Works Best for Me!

Single life works for me because I am a WAY passed all of the ridiculousness; which are lies and bull crap that men feed you.   Men will do all the necessary things to get you. You slightly begin to let your guard down and that is when they go for the kill. 

Just recently, I pondered over whether or not to venture into a full blown relationship. Everything was going well. Communication was on point and the chemistry was there.  We weren’t trying to rush into anything real serious because of the different things that were going on in our lives.  We began to spend a lot of time together and began to make future plans; not marriage!  I offered him a couple of times to come and hang out with my friends, but due to his busy work schedule and kids he wasn’t able to.  Out of nowhere, WHAM there goes the change in the person.  His behavior became very different.  The phone conversations had become less, which turned into just text messaging. The text messages became fewer and fewer.  We didn’t hang out as often and we began to drift apart.  Things with us are totally different. We may text or call when we find time to check in.  It isn’t the same however we have remained friends.

Why Am I Single

I was asked the other day Why am I single?

I choose to be single because I have been in four relationships with infidelity issues and one with a guy who had the best Houdini act in the world. I am unwilling to accept not being put first, not having a voice in the relationship, being taken for granted, or being lied to. I do not want to let myself be hurt again. I also do not want to find anymore WRONG partners!

Living Single on Valentine’s Day

I know you are feeling down and depressed because you are single on this “romantic” day.  You may want to hide away from everyone, but Valentine’s Day is actually "Singles Appreciation Day"!  That’s right; it is an appreciation that you are single and happy. 

So, instead of feeling depressed and ashamed for not having a significant other to spend the day, spend Valentine's Day in a constructive manner by expressing love and affection for people around you. One can thank and greet Valentine's Day to one's parents, friends, colleagues, neighbors or anyone dear to you.