Living Single: A Night Out On The Town

Once again, I had the opportunity to treat myself to a night out on the town.  Being that EP is three states away and I really wanted to see the Tyler Perry movie, I decided to go at it alone. 

I started my date off with passing by the mall. I actually had intentions of just window shopping but ended up purchasing several things that caught my eye a while ago. The items were finally on sale, yes, I must admit, I am a bargin shopper, and it was time for me to snatch them up.  I ended up buying a pair of shoes and clothing.  I did manage to put something else on my watch-list, so I will be back to get them later; yes, more shoes! 

What Does This Single Girl Do at Christmas?

Year after year since my divorce, I have been alone (no guy friend) to spend the Christmas holiday with.  I know you are asking “what about EP?” Well EP has to work and being that we are still trying to see if we want a relationship, I am spending Christmas alone once again.

Last year, I had surgery and was recuperating around the Christmas holiday.  All I could do was sit around on my mom’s green recliner with meds and a soft white pillow that helped ease the pain from the stitches, very painful!   There really was not much of anything I could do.   I could not go to Christmas parties or visit family members.  I was stuck at my mom’s house in that chair!!!!  Not to mention I was not in a relationship with anyone so spending quality time with a “love interest” wasn't in the cards.

Right One/Wrong Time

I met (what I think) is the man I am supposed to be with.  I know you are asking, Jeigh, how do you know this? So, let me enlighten you.

When I saw him, my heart skipped a beat.  I had those butterflies in my stomach and of course I felt like I was sixteen again.  A super huge Kool-Aid smile was plastered on my face. Everything he spoke sounded so heavenly.  I got that feeling that most people talk about; that “love at first sight” feeling!  I asked myself, “How could that be? I don’t know anything about this guy!” I wanted to get to know him, had to get to know him.  He was tall, attractive and most of all, he had a wide-spread vocabulary. 

Living Single: Single & Totally Alone

Have you ever been single and been totally alone?  Well, that happened to me recently.  With my son being away in college and the other kids having fun with grandma, I spent some time completely alone.  There was no male companion blowing up my phone or asking to spend time with me. Along with no children asking to go places or asking to use the car. It was just me, myself and I lounging around the house with different thoughts rolling around in my head.

One of my thoughts was to get out of the house and go places.  There is a huge problem with this thought because I am female and by being female, going out alone isn’t safe.  I know some may do it, but this girl ISN’T!  I don’t have many girlfriends and plus the ones I do have are booed up.  Therefore, I know they wouldn’t want to hit the dating scene with me. So, that makes me resort back to finding things to do at home. 

Love Lost: Saying Farewell

A few days ago, I said farewell to a close friend.  He had been there for me when no one else was able to.  He has helped me in ways that I can't even explain to you.  I will never have the chance to return the favor.  He was my Superman, Friend and Confidant all in one.  When he was around, I felt safe and secure. 

The farewell came because I messed up; yes I am admitting that I messed things up.  I thought I needed more from him. When in actuality he was giving me everything I was looking for in others and on the dating sites.  All he wanted to do was make me happy, I missed that boat big time.  I did not realize that at the time.  I understand now why I pushed him away. It is because; I just didn’t know what I wanted.  To be honest, I was afraid to give my heart away, to only get it back smashed, crushed or even broken.

The Date from Hell

I met this guy on line and decided to share my phone number with him. He had struck my interest.  We began to chat via text and he mention that he wanted to meet me.  I should have known something was a little off with the brother because he couldn’t make a suggestion on where to go.  He said that he do not like to make suggestions that it is up to the lady to say where she wanted to go.  So after an hour of round robin, we decided to meet at 6 pm at the daiquiri shop. 

Well, 5 o’clock came around and he text me asking where I was. I told him I was at home. He asked if I was still going to meet him at the place.  I told him I still planned on meeting him.  He then said he was on his way.  I couldn't believe it; we were supposed to meet at 6 o’clock.  He could have let me know he was changing the time, strike 1. 

I rushed and got dressed.  I must have had some superpowers, because it took me no time to get dressed and get in the car.  While I was driving, he texted me and asked me again where I was.  I said I am on my way.  

Single Parenting: Traveling with Big “Little” Man

I have been traveling for my job for the last seven years, but up until recently, I have never been extremely entertained on an airplane.

I shared with you that my son was offered a scholarship from a College in AZ.  With that being said, we decided the best way to get him to AZ was to fly.  Please keep in mind that he has flown before several times, but he was much younger. 

So the journey begins with; both legs of the trip, KB and I were upgraded to first class.  Good thing because, I really don’t think he would have made it in economy! Let me add that his girlfriend and my daughter (it was her first time flying) came along on trip.  They weren’t upgraded, so I decided that I would go visit with them throughout the flights, just to check on Tootlebug.  

Adventures: On-line Dating Check In

I promised that I would keep you guys abreast on my on-line dating adventures, so here it goes. 

Let me start off with; there are some creepy, strange, and scary people in this world.  The lines that you will get are phenomenal (being sarcastic).  I have received request from young boys to old men, and I mean old!  Some of them are really sexy and cute. The rest are a bit less desirable, I know looks are in the eye of the beholder, but that is where I will leave it.  Some knew how to peek my interest, before I would delete the message and some had no freaking clue.  I will share two messages that mimic the usual messages I receive.

Adventures: Online Dating

One of my friends persuaded me to try online dating.  I was very leery about doing such a thing because you hear the horror stories and get skeptical.  So, I said what hell and decided to try it out.  I found a website that was being pushed by Facebook, yea I know; probably the wrong place to start!  However, it wasn’t that bad of a starting point.  

During the whole time I am creating my profile, my conscious is whispering in my ear; I can’t believe you are doing this!  I moved right on along, paid my conscious no attention at all and came up with a cleaver description about myself.  I wanted my profile to be honest and leave a little room for prospects to want to explore more about me.  I know; I am a little sneaky!  

Dating My Television

With some new and old television shows on air, I have found myself being attracted to my television, lately.  I rush home to cook (depending on the mood) work out, then I am either on the sofa or in my comfy bed lusting after my new lover.  Everyday “he” draws me in by displaying shows that makes me happy.  It all starts with;

Sundays

My Lover starts my week off with True Blood, Empire Girls, Drop Dead Diva and Keeping Up With The Kardashians. Empire Girls is my newly added reality show.  It is about Adrienne Bailon from the Cheetah Girls and her best friend Julissa Bermudez from 106^th & Park.  This show doesn’t seem like it is scripted at all unlike the Kardashians’ show.  In return, it reminds me of how my friends and I get down, very relatable.  It airs on the Style network.  Check out the details: http://www.mystyle.com/tv-shows/empire-girls/ 

Next, Drop Dead Diva is about a beautiful diva that dropped dead and came back to life as a voluptuous attorney that is hard core.  Oh trust me she is divatized.  It is a humors show you will definitely add to your Sundays. Check it out: http://www.mylifetime.com/shows/drop-dead-diva

Quality Time While Being Sick

I have been sick the last few days and still suffering with a sore throat and ringing in my ear.  My daughter immediately became my living in nurse. Tootlebug (my nickname for her) has kept the kitchen and house clean while keeping me hydrated and on my meds.  She is an incredible nurse!  She shifted her job responsibility by getting me out of bed to make me “feel better”!

She started off with entertaining me with singing songs and reenacting scenes from Burlesque.  Watching her do the “Wagon Wheel Watusi” was hilarious.  Tootlebug was trying her best to do the dance scenes, oh my.  I love her for trying to make me feel better. 

Dinner for One

While being here in Denver, I decided to go on a date alone.  At first, I thought this would be a bad idea but it turned out to be a big milestone for me.  I got all dolled up as if I was meeting a nice gentleman for dinner.  I went all out for myself; curled my hair and put on a nice pair of slacks, along with a dressy top. 

I arrived at Osteria Marco, an Artisan Italian Pizzeria restaurant that was recommended by the hotel staff on Larimer Street.  The atmosphere was very casual and nice.  I didn't know whether to sit at the bar or ask for a table for one.  I chose to sit on the patio so I can see the city skyline and do a little people watching.  I also thought this wouldn't look so unordinary being alone. I am glad I did because the bar was filled with couples.

While, I sat on the patio, couples or groups of people would pass and give me looks. I just chuckled and ordered off of the menu.  I ordered a Caesar salad as a starter and a classic Italian Mortadella, Prosciutto, and Salami with Provolone; Panini for my entree.  I ordered a glass of 2009 Pinot Grigio, Ca’Donini, which turned out to be a very good selection. 

Why Single Life Works Best for Me!

Single life works for me because I am a WAY passed all of the ridiculousness; which are lies and bull crap that men feed you.   Men will do all the necessary things to get you. You slightly begin to let your guard down and that is when they go for the kill. 

Just recently, I pondered over whether or not to venture into a full blown relationship. Everything was going well. Communication was on point and the chemistry was there.  We weren’t trying to rush into anything real serious because of the different things that were going on in our lives.  We began to spend a lot of time together and began to make future plans; not marriage!  I offered him a couple of times to come and hang out with my friends, but due to his busy work schedule and kids he wasn’t able to.  Out of nowhere, WHAM there goes the change in the person.  His behavior became very different.  The phone conversations had become less, which turned into just text messaging. The text messages became fewer and fewer.  We didn’t hang out as often and we began to drift apart.  Things with us are totally different. We may text or call when we find time to check in.  It isn’t the same however we have remained friends.

A Date That Lasted Over Three Days!

This eventful date was one to write the world about; and so, I would like to share with you the best date I have ever been on in my entire life.

It all started with a text message asking how was I doing.  The text messages turned into a phone conversation.  The phone conversation lasted about an hour before I had to end the call, so I could visit some family members.  Before we ended the call, “Mr. Compatible” (how I will refer to him in this blog) asked if I would pass by his job after I leave from visiting. 

After spending time with my folks, I texted Mr. Compatible and told him that I was on my way to see him. When I got to his job, we stood outside and talked for an hour. It was a pleasure chatting with him.  No slang.  I didn’t have to try and figure out what he was talking about.  He didn’t say stupid off the wall things.  Just a very pleasant, decent and intellectual conversation, the made me want to stay there all night.  We planned to meet on Saturday for a real date. 

I Have These on Repeat!

Why Am I Single

I was asked the other day Why am I single?

I choose to be single because I have been in four relationships with infidelity issues and one with a guy who had the best Houdini act in the world. I am unwilling to accept not being put first, not having a voice in the relationship, being taken for granted, or being lied to. I do not want to let myself be hurt again. I also do not want to find anymore WRONG partners!

Living Single on Valentine’s Day

I know you are feeling down and depressed because you are single on this “romantic” day.  You may want to hide away from everyone, but Valentine’s Day is actually "Singles Appreciation Day"!  That’s right; it is an appreciation that you are single and happy. 

So, instead of feeling depressed and ashamed for not having a significant other to spend the day, spend Valentine's Day in a constructive manner by expressing love and affection for people around you. One can thank and greet Valentine's Day to one's parents, friends, colleagues, neighbors or anyone dear to you.