Work in Progress: Matter of Marriage

I am still digging deeper within myself so I can fix my issues before I venture into the next relationship.  My next issue, that needs attention, is the matter of marriage.

When it comes to marriage, this topic usually is the nail in the coffin!  I have been married before and it was an eye opener for me.  There were good days and of course in any marriage, there were those unbearable days.  Because I have been though a marriage I am hesitant about marrying again; who isn’t, right?  

Going through the divorce to end that marriage, wasn’t like most. We didn’t fight over anything but it was still a low time in my life.  We both knew it was over and time to put our energy elsewhere.  We are better now as friends.  Divorce for anyone can be difficult and it just something that I don’t want to experience again.  Some "love struck" people may say that I will find that RIGHT one and divorce may not be an option, but I am a realist that crap happens.   

Happens All In The Movies

Recently, I was tasked with a dilemma whether or not to date a married man. This guy was my high school crush.  He was the guy that I wanted to have as my boyfriend.  He was smart, tall, handsome, and every girl had to have him.  Things with us didn't work out because the guy was afraid to approach me. At the time, he and ex-boyfriend were basketball teammates. A chance meeting brought us into each other’s proximity, again.  We exchanged numbers and started talking about the past and the reasons why we never acted on our feelings.  Of course, he reiterated on how he didn't want to step on my ex-boyfriend’s toes, but wished he had.

I learned through conversation that he was married and finally wanted to pursue a relationship with me. He said that he would find time to spend with me.  He had the “Married Men” lines in order.  He recited:  We are together for the children, we don’t communicate like before, I’m not happy with her, she don’t pay attention to me so, she will not find out about us, and I am thinking about leaving her. BLAH, BLAH, doesn’t this sound like a Lifetime Movie?