Love Spats: Share & Share Alike

After chatting with Jess about her new beau, I began to think about how much women share feelings, concerns and problems with others, especially our men.  On the other hand, men aren’t so open to sharing; hmm! 

All of this came about when Jess was telling me about her concerns.  She expressed that her beau told her that he had a lot going on and he would talk to her about it.  A few days passed and he still had not shared one single thing with her, except to tell her that it has nothing to do with the two of them.  She started to reconsider continuing her journey with this guy.  She said that if he can’t trust her enough to share what is going on with him then there is no need to be in a relationship with this person.

I really don’t think I was the right person for her to express this to because, I too believe that if you are in a relationship with someone, they should be able/comfortable enough to be open about their issues.  However, I did tell her, being that this relationship is still fresh, she needs to give him some time to be open to sharing things with her.  Wait it out and don’t jump so fast to ending things when he isn’t ready to be open. 

I ran this scenario across another girlfriend to get her take on the situation and she said, “Men will tell you things when they feel comfortable enough to do so.  Tell her not to take it personally, because that maybe the way he is. Men are not as in touch with their feelings as we are. Give him a little time, he will come around.”

Therefore, should women not be so open with men?  If a man doesn’t share things with us, should we take it personally?  I want to hear from you.  Help me give her the best advice.