Year In Review

It has been a year since I started transferring my thoughts from paper to this blog. This blog has been my outlet!  A piece of me that I wanted to share and a place that has helped me understand that I too, am a mess!   I have shared my dates, adventures, and my journeys within my single life. 

Let’s recap:

• I have pondered over recycling my ex and getting that phone call from an ex asking to rekindle the old flame.
• Exes
• I went on several dates. One alone, perfect dates and some that made me want to quit searching for Mr. Jeigh altogether!  However, they made me realize what I am willing to accept and not tolerate!
• Dating
• I have shared closing a major chapter in my life and realizing that I pushed a person away because I didn’t know what I wanted.
• Love Lost

Mission 15: Going for 20!

Well, I am back at challenging myself to lose those unwanted pounds, again.  Why not add this to my year of self-challenges, right?  This time, I am going for twenty pounds.  I want to make the mission more interesting and a greater one. 

My previous challenge of Mission 15, I got those unwanted fifteen pounds off!  However, during the holidays, I managed to gain those back and some more!  Come on, don’t give me that look, you wouldn’t pass up potato pies, pecan candy, red velvet cake, cupcakes or any Christmas candy in eye sight, would you?  With summer and vacations coming up, now is time to get my butt back into shape.

Drifting: A Perfect Weekend

EP and I have finally spent some real time together, since meeting.  We had an awesome time!  He flew into the city early, so we had time to go to one of my favorite hangout spots in the city.  I took him to Port of Call on Esplanade.  He was able to partake in the hamburger with the loaded baked potato.  He loved the atmosphere and said that he could come back to a place like this. 

After eating and having a few drinks at Port of Call, we ventured over to the Superdome for the Hornets vs. Raptures game.  It was really interesting that we decided to go to this game because he is a Hawks fan and of course I am a Lakers fan!  But really the cost of the tickets was hard to pass up on.  The game ended with a Hornets lost in overtime, but this game was truly exciting.

Once the game concluded, we took a stroll down Bourbon to find a place to dance and have some drinks.  We ended up in Channing Tatum’s club/restaurant, Saints & Sinners.  I was truly impressed with the décor and the layout of the place.  The dance floor was a little small for my liking, but the place was on point.  Did I mention there is a stripper pole in the center of the dance floor, giving a side eye!  The music was slamming which caused us to stay there until wee hours in the morning. 

Sidebar: Cable Hunting

Recently, I moved and my new place has a huge tree blocking the line of sight for service with Directv.  Therefore, I had to begin shopping around for cable service.  I have had my cable service with Directv for years and have grown to love the service.  

Shopping for cable service sucked because we are only offered Cox and they truly suck!!!!  I did not want new service and yet alone with Cox.  They are a monopoly company which means that they are price gouging and their customer service is very lacking! 

Later, I began to vent to a coworker about the price, she suggested that I look into At&t U-verse!  She was telling me about the packages that were being offered and she was thinking about switching.  A friend also suggested them as well; because her friend has the service and loves it.  I proceeded onto the website to see what they had to offer.

My 2013 Goals/Challenges; “New Year’s Resolution”

Everyone starts off the New Year with promises that they try to keep.  I like everyone else, make “false” promises that I will work out, eat healthier, save money and my ultimate favorite is try to stop cursing.  Haven’t we all wrote and heard the same song?  By the time I am settled into the New Year, which could be about three weeks, all my resolutions go flying out of the window.  I fall back into my routine like I had never promised myself I would do these things. 

Therefore, this year 2013, I would like to do something a bit different.  Instead of putting myself on punishment, I want to challenge myself with achieving realistic goals.  Set some goals/challenges that are going to enhance myself as a person, friend, sibling, daughter and parent.

What Does This Single Girl Do at Christmas?

Year after year since my divorce, I have been alone (no guy friend) to spend the Christmas holiday with.  I know you are asking “what about EP?” Well EP has to work and being that we are still trying to see if we want a relationship, I am spending Christmas alone once again.

Last year, I had surgery and was recuperating around the Christmas holiday.  All I could do was sit around on my mom’s green recliner with meds and a soft white pillow that helped ease the pain from the stitches, very painful!   There really was not much of anything I could do.   I could not go to Christmas parties or visit family members.  I was stuck at my mom’s house in that chair!!!!  Not to mention I was not in a relationship with anyone so spending quality time with a “love interest” wasn't in the cards.

Uncharted Territory: The Discussion

EP and I were chatting about what he wanted. He said he would love to come home with me opening the door saying, "Good morning Honey!" and he would reply,  "Good morning Honeybun!"  Basically he was saying that he would love for us to live together.  So we begin to have a huge discussion about moving!

I asked him would he move to where I am.  He said that he would love to move here but he prefers to stay closer to his daughter.  He then told me that it would be hard for me to move because my children are grounded here.  He said he would prefer me to move there so we could get a place together.

This discussion made me start thinking about how strong does a long distance relationship have to be and how long can it last?  I have to reiterate that he said again, that he isn’t scared of being in a long distance relationship and he is willing to make it work.  However, will we be able to maintain a serious relationship being so far apart?