Mission 15

A couple of months ago, I created a challenge for myself. I named the challenge, Mission 15.   Mission 15, is to lose fifteen pounds by the end of June.  I created this mission because I noticed that my clothing has gotten a little tight for my liking.  Everyone else says I look great at my current weight.  However, it isn’t what they see; it is what I am comfortable with about myself.  And no, I am not losing weight for ANYONE!  I want that swimsuit ready body; I am in a wedding in November and severely want to get rid of my “muffin top”!  

Therefore, a friend and I began walking around the college campus where I work. Also, when we couldn’t get together, I walk around my neighborhood or a track located at a nearby school.  After I completed my walk and get home I would complete an ab workout.  We had been doing a great job, until the April showers begin to roll in.  So we began to put the walks off as well as my laziness settled in.

Single Parenting: My Proudest Moment

Last month, my eldest son graduated from high school.  An unexplainable emotion came over me.    Hearing his name being called when he walked across the stage to receive his diploma was my proudest moment.  Even though he has won awards, been on television, played in a high school bowl game and was selected All –Metro quarterback, nothing compared to that moment. Right then, I knew I didn’t have a baby anymore and he completed phase one of his life’s journey.   

He was offered a full athletic scholarship to play football at a college in Arizona, which is a twenty-two hour drive away.  Yay, I get to clean his room, cook less food and keep my car parked with gas in it! However, I will miss him. He has been my protector and my “father-figure” when it came to men, overprotective at times.  I will not have that “strong male” in the house to cut the grass, take out the garbage and protect me from the gecko lizards. Yes, I am afraid of geckos; basically anything that moves! I will miss seeing and fussing with him, every day.

Quality Time While Being Sick

I have been sick the last few days and still suffering with a sore throat and ringing in my ear.  My daughter immediately became my living in nurse. Tootlebug (my nickname for her) has kept the kitchen and house clean while keeping me hydrated and on my meds.  She is an incredible nurse!  She shifted her job responsibility by getting me out of bed to make me “feel better”!

She started off with entertaining me with singing songs and reenacting scenes from Burlesque.  Watching her do the “Wagon Wheel Watusi” was hilarious.  Tootlebug was trying her best to do the dance scenes, oh my.  I love her for trying to make me feel better. 

When an Ex-Boyfriend Calls

My ex-boyfriend called me recently and wanted to catch up.  We remained friends and he checks in on me from time to time.  The conversation started off as usual, how are the kids? How am I doing?  How's the family and what have I been up to?  And of course, he asked that nosy question “am I dating anyone”.  When I said that I wasn’t dating anyone, that’s when the chat became a bit unusual.  

He shifted the conversation towards he and I possibly getting something started again, OMG, really?  That shocked me! We broke up over four years ago and we both have moved forth. As well as (not to put him on blast) the Dude is in a relationship with someone, can I say CHEATER!!   We ended our relationship because he was seeing someone else while we were together.  Mercy, this was one of the relationships that made me want to regroup and think about being in another relationship.  I discussed it in “Why Am I Single”. 

Dinner for One

While being here in Denver, I decided to go on a date alone.  At first, I thought this would be a bad idea but it turned out to be a big milestone for me.  I got all dolled up as if I was meeting a nice gentleman for dinner.  I went all out for myself; curled my hair and put on a nice pair of slacks, along with a dressy top. 

I arrived at Osteria Marco, an Artisan Italian Pizzeria restaurant that was recommended by the hotel staff on Larimer Street.  The atmosphere was very casual and nice.  I didn't know whether to sit at the bar or ask for a table for one.  I chose to sit on the patio so I can see the city skyline and do a little people watching.  I also thought this wouldn't look so unordinary being alone. I am glad I did because the bar was filled with couples.

While, I sat on the patio, couples or groups of people would pass and give me looks. I just chuckled and ordered off of the menu.  I ordered a Caesar salad as a starter and a classic Italian Mortadella, Prosciutto, and Salami with Provolone; Panini for my entree.  I ordered a glass of 2009 Pinot Grigio, Ca’Donini, which turned out to be a very good selection. 

Men’s Famous Breakup Lines

Oh yes, I am going there. I am doing this because we as women don’t want to see the “big picture” when men tell us their version of what they want or don’t want. Sometimes we really don’t understand what their “lines” mean. So I am taking the time out to define all of the lines that I have witness or was told by other females.

1. The “I need some time to find myself or I need space." line. If this is the line that is fed to you, please know that he is telling you that you need to go out and do whatever you want, because he is. Don’t wait around for him to come back. Give him all the SPACE in the world. Don’t call, text, email! Don’t even do the famous “surprise” run into him. Begin moving on!

2. The classic "It's Not You - It's Me” line. This is one is my favorites!!! Ugh, I think we all have heard this one. What he is saying is “It is you, it’s not him! This is his chicken crap way of letting you down easy. He wants something other than being in a relationship with you and he will place the blame on himself so it doesn’t impact you that hard. 

Why Single Life Works Best for Me!

Single life works for me because I am a WAY passed all of the ridiculousness; which are lies and bull crap that men feed you.   Men will do all the necessary things to get you. You slightly begin to let your guard down and that is when they go for the kill. 

Just recently, I pondered over whether or not to venture into a full blown relationship. Everything was going well. Communication was on point and the chemistry was there.  We weren’t trying to rush into anything real serious because of the different things that were going on in our lives.  We began to spend a lot of time together and began to make future plans; not marriage!  I offered him a couple of times to come and hang out with my friends, but due to his busy work schedule and kids he wasn’t able to.  Out of nowhere, WHAM there goes the change in the person.  His behavior became very different.  The phone conversations had become less, which turned into just text messaging. The text messages became fewer and fewer.  We didn’t hang out as often and we began to drift apart.  Things with us are totally different. We may text or call when we find time to check in.  It isn’t the same however we have remained friends.