Should You Date a “True” Friend?

A question was asked recently regarding would you date or enter into a relationship with a “true” friend? I can honestly say that I have never dated a “true” friend. I have been in relationships with people who eventually became a friend. I believe that there are good and bad points about dating a “true” friend.

I perceive that the good points are: what better person to fall in love with than the one who knows you BEST? They don’t judge you for who you are. This is the person that you know without hesitation you can depend on. You will enjoy most of the same things and there is probably little to no room for disagreement. They have those remarkable words of encouragement. They give you that feeling of security. You trust them whole heartily. This is the person that shares the same common interests, morals, and values. You know without a doubt that they will not back down during the toughest times! All of these points are usually the foundation of a good relationship.

Beau Material

 

Urban Dictionary defines relationship (BEAU) material as: A status bestowed from one individual upon another exemplifying satisfaction anticipated from maintaining a relationship with that individual. This evaluation is highly subjective and typically reflects a great deal of personal preference.

So basically, “Beau Material” is a set of standards that a person looks for in their mate. It’s a detailed checklist or set of guidelines that are set forth.  My perspective of what a picture-perfect Boyfriend “Beau Material” should be is: 

I Have These on Repeat!

Why Am I Single

I was asked the other day Why am I single?

I choose to be single because I have been in four relationships with infidelity issues and one with a guy who had the best Houdini act in the world. I am unwilling to accept not being put first, not having a voice in the relationship, being taken for granted, or being lied to. I do not want to let myself be hurt again. I also do not want to find anymore WRONG partners!

Considering Recycling An Ex?

Typically people recycle clothes, shoes and plastic, why would anyone consider recycling a boyfriend?

First, I think one must determine the reason they decided to throw in the towel. Are they recycling the ex because they know their quirks, they were good looking, had a great job, had the assets, they were the one they dreamed of being married to and having those three kids?

Living Single on Valentine’s Day

I know you are feeling down and depressed because you are single on this “romantic” day.  You may want to hide away from everyone, but Valentine’s Day is actually "Singles Appreciation Day"!  That’s right; it is an appreciation that you are single and happy. 

So, instead of feeling depressed and ashamed for not having a significant other to spend the day, spend Valentine's Day in a constructive manner by expressing love and affection for people around you. One can thank and greet Valentine's Day to one's parents, friends, colleagues, neighbors or anyone dear to you.

Happens All In The Movies

Recently, I was tasked with a dilemma whether or not to date a married man. This guy was my high school crush.  He was the guy that I wanted to have as my boyfriend.  He was smart, tall, handsome, and every girl had to have him.  Things with us didn't work out because the guy was afraid to approach me. At the time, he and ex-boyfriend were basketball teammates. A chance meeting brought us into each other’s proximity, again.  We exchanged numbers and started talking about the past and the reasons why we never acted on our feelings.  Of course, he reiterated on how he didn't want to step on my ex-boyfriend’s toes, but wished he had.

I learned through conversation that he was married and finally wanted to pursue a relationship with me. He said that he would find time to spend with me.  He had the “Married Men” lines in order.  He recited:  We are together for the children, we don’t communicate like before, I’m not happy with her, she don’t pay attention to me so, she will not find out about us, and I am thinking about leaving her. BLAH, BLAH, doesn’t this sound like a Lifetime Movie?